123. I'm sorry (not sorry)

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Today's podcast episode is about saying sorry or, perhaps more accurately, not saying sorry.

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Why do we say sorry so often for things that it really isn't necessary to say sorry for?

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I think I did it to try and help or coerce people into liking me.

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I think I did it to avoid conflict.

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I think there was something about being cautious about other people's feelings and reactions to me.

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I certainly think I wanted approval and perhaps there was a degree of social anxiety.

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Here are some of the things that I have now stopped saying sorry for.

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I'm sorry I didn't brush my hair again.

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I'm sorry that my chair or my arm touched yours. I'm sorry. I haven't made dinner yet. I'm sorry. The traffic was awful for you.

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I'm sorry, but I disagree with you. No. None of that is required.

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Those sorrys are being done to fit in, to be accommodating, and in none of those situations had I made any kind of mistake.

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If you want to say sorry then absolutely make it sincere, make it intentional, acknowledge the wrongdoing, be really explicit. I'm sorry. I lost my temper with you. I'm sorry. I broke your favourite mug.

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Take responsibility for your action or behaviour and someone will see that you really were sorry for what you did. Give the apology. Give it true meaning.

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Show that you really care about somebody when you say sorry.

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