198. The pain of work vs The pain of regret
It's a fundamental truth of life - there will be two 'hards' and you get to choose which one you want.
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Hello darling heart and welcome to this episode of the Drink Less, Live Better podcast.
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-:The pain of work versus the pain of regret. A fundamental truth of life.
-:The choice between the pain of work and the pain of regret, also known as choosing your hard.
-:Let's look at 3 potential, well, pains. 1st, alcohol.
-:Specifically, the decision to quit it or cut back.
-:The next time you're faced with a choice, whether that is out with your friends or your partner or family or at home on the
-:sofa and the idea of a drink is presented to you by your own brain or by somebody else.
-:The pain of work here means pushing through social occasions alcohol free, dealing with awkward explanations, if you feel
-:you have to, and facing your anxieties without the tool you've relied on in the past.
-:It means rebuilding your social skills and finding new ways to unwind that might be hard, and I understand that. But the pain of regret?
-:That is waking up at 40, 50 or 60 and realising you've spent 2, 3, or 4 decades numbing yourself instead of choosing yourself.
-:It's looking back at relationships not fulfilled, opportunities missed, and mornings lost to hangovers.
-:The work is temporary, but the regret will last a lifetime, I'm sorry to say.
-:The work is holding firm in your values and your beliefs. Okay. 2nd, relationships.
-:In particular, the effort required to maintain them.
-:The pain of work here means having difficult conversations when you'd rather scroll through your phone.
-:It means showing up emotionally when you're exhausted, making that call to your parents, sibling, friend, even when you're
-:busy, or working through conflicts with your partner instead of letting them simmer.
-:It's demanding and often uncomfortable, but the pain of regret in relationships cuts deep.
-:It might be standing at a parent's funeral wishing you asked more questions about their life. It's realizing your children
-:partner has built a full emotional life that doesn't include you because you never made the effort to be truly present. Awkward, I know.
-:The work here is connecting. 3rd, rest. Real, rejuvenating rest.
-:The pain of work here might seem counterintuitive, but it's very, very real.
-:It means setting boundaries at work, potentially disappointing others, and facing your own thoughts instead of drowning them in busyness.
-:It means learning to say no, risking career advancement, and sometimes watching others get ahead of you while you prioritize your well-being. But the pain of regret?
-:That is finding yourself at 50 with chronic health issues because you never gave your body and mind time to recover.
-:It's realizing you've spent your entire life running on empty, achieving goals, but never truly enjoying them because you're too exhausted to feel satisfied.
-:The work is stillness, relaxation, time to be, not time to do.
-:What we know for sure, the pain of work is front loaded.
-:It's immediate and often intense, but ultimately worthwhile.
-:The pain of regret, however, compounds over time.
-:It's the slow poison of what if and if only that lingers.
-:The pain of work is like going to the gym.
-:It's uncomfortable in the moment, but you do walk away stronger.
-:The pain of regret is like watching your health deteriorate while your unused gym membership auto renews each month. 1 pain one pain makes you better. The other pain slowly diminishes you.
-:The choice isn't between pain and no pain, it's about choosing the pain that leads to growth and change over the pain that leads to regret.
-:Question for you and question for me, which pain am I choosing in my life right now, and is that okay? Thank you for listening in today. Come back again next week.
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