155. We're all just winging it

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Hello, darling heart, and welcome to this episode of the drink less, live live better podcast. This is the podcast that helps

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you to see that drinking less doesn't need to be stressful, lonely, or boring. I'm your host, Sarah Williamson, and I decided

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to have a year alcohol free as a little life experiment and haven't looked back. I'm a best author, expert speaker, corporate

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workshop facilitator, and life coach. I'm here to support you with your alcohol free or drink less adventures. To keep up

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club where I share resources, wisdom, insights, and glimmers of hope and joy. I hope you enjoy this episode. Let's get straight

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to it. We're all just winging it. Here is how I know this to be true. There's an idea that everyone around us has it all figured

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out. We think other people are confidently navigating become apparent that this facade of certainty is just that, a facade.

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Maybe they're not so sure after all. We are all just winging it. Here are 5 universal truths. Number 1, imposter syndrome.

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Do you doubt your accomplishments and fear being exposed as a fraud? Surprisingly, this affliction is not limited to those

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just embarking on new projects, new ideas, new endeavours. It plagues people at every single stage of life, from seasoned

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professionals to esteemed experts, many have doubts about their own competence. This widespread experience highlights the

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fundamental truth that none of us possess all the answers or master every aspect of our lives. We're all doing the best we

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can, often grappling with feelings of not good enoughness despite the external accolades we might have. Ah, the external accolades.

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I've got more certificates that you can shake a stick at and not one single one of them has ever helped to relieve the feeling

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of being an imposter. Number 2, life's unpredictability. Life does throw us curveballs. No matter how meticulously you plan

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or how diligently you work towards your life, there will be factors beyond your control that can and will derail the best

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laid laid plans, Whether it's an unexpected illness, a sudden job loss, or maybe a global pandemic, the unpredictability of

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life serves as a stark reminder of our vulnerability. In these moments, we are forced to adapt and navigate often without

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a road map, clear direction, or anyone else around us telling us what to do. It's during these times of uncertainty that our

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ability to improvise and make the best of a situation usually kicks in. Number 3, social comparisons. Social media platforms

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amplify our ability to compare our lives to other people's. Scrolling through carefully curated feeds, it's easy to fall into

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the trap of believing that everyone else has it all together while we're lagging behind. Of course, snapshots of perfection

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are often misleading. Behind those filters and hashtags lie the same struggles and insecurities that we all grapple with.

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Recognising that everyone presents a curated version of themselves online can help alleviate the pressure to measure up to

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perceived standards. The myth of adulthood. As children, we often look up to adults with a sense of awe, assuming that they

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possess all the answers and have everything figured out. However, as we find ourselves in adulthood we quickly realise that

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this perception is actually far from reality. Adulthood is not a destination where you suddenly become wise and all knowing.

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If it was, I'm still waiting. It is in fact a continuous journey of your own self discovery. Most adults grapple with insecurities,

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doubts and uncertainties just like they did in their youth. The realisation that even those older than us are still figuring

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things out is reassuring and it shows us that it is okay to not have all the answers and perhaps we never will. Number 5,

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embracing perfection. Ultimately, the most liberating revelation of all is the recognition that imperfection is entirely normal.

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Fulfillment, perhaps, comes from embracing our flaws and vulnerabilities, acknowledging that they are actually a part of what

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makes us very, very human. When we let go of the need to have everything figured out and instead embrace the messiness of

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life, we open ourselves to new possibilities and experience. It's in the midst of chaos and uncertainty that we often find

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our greatest learning. We're all just winging it, navigating the complexities of life to the very best of our abilities and

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sometimes not to the very best of our abilities. Recognising this and supporting one another to navigate our realities is

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a step towards winging it less. I'm coming to the conclusion that in life and business there's fun and freedom to be had in

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'winging it'. Less structure often means more opportunity to make interesting choices that do lead to unexpected and joyful

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outcomes. Thank you for listening in today. Come back again next week. I'd massively appreciate it if you could rate and review

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the podcast. Check out the show notes for a link to a hidden podcast episode that will help you with your 5 PM cravings and

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details about my one to one life coaching and sober coaching programmes. And, PS, I believe in you.