48. BONUS EPISODE-Asking for what you need or want this Mother's Day!

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Hello, darling heart. This is a bonus episode of the drink less, live better podcast in honor of Mother's Day this weekend.

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If you're not a mother but planning to help someone else celebrate a Mother's Day or you're not a mother and not planning

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a mother's day celebration in any way, this also applies to you. You can ask someone else what they want or need, or if you

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need time, space, or peace, you are allowed to ask for that too. Many years ago, the wonderful Kelly at Project Me gave me

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some great advice about Mother's Day, which in most simple form was to ask for what you want. So following on from last week's

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pod podcast episode encouraging asking for what you want or need, let's give it a Mother's Day focus. First of all, we've

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got a few things to dispel. You might feel you shouldn't have to ask for what you want. You might not believe you're worthy

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of what you want, and perhaps you don't like the idea of people being inconvenienced. I urge you to push through those feelings,

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and I'm gonna give you some of my learning right now. I don't like breakfast in bed, so I have always proclaimed this loudly.

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When the kids were small and someone used to bring someone a tray on the TV or on an advert in a film, I would say, that's

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my idea of a nightmare. I hate the idea of breakfast in bed. I don't actually love lunch out on Mother's Day either, too many

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other people, so I've told my family this as well. Oh, but what do I like? I love tea in bed and a lion. I love a family walk

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together. I love someone else to cook, and it doesn't have to be fancy. I like beans on toast as much as the next thing. I

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love homemade cards and movies. Oh, and a bar of chocolate that everyone else promises not to eat. I'll share it, of course,

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but I don't want to go in the cupboard and find it gone. My number one favorite gift when the kids were small was a day away

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from them. I know. I know. The irony isn't lost on me. My husband would slip a travel card for London in my Mother's Day card

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and take the Monday after Mother's Day off work. Oh, how delighted I was. I missed bits of my old London life when I became

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a mum. So on this March date I would head straight up to London, see an exhibition, have lunch with an old colleague, see

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a theatre show in the afternoon, meet another few friends eke every last bit of value out of that travel card and every last

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hour out of that day away. My kids are older now, so I don't have that little day long holiday craving like I used to. And

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I know whatever happens on Sunday will be perfect. So here's what I'll do this week. Today or tomorrow, over dinner, I'll

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remind my husband and kids the grocery shopping is coming on Friday. What would they like me to add to the basket for them

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to cook at the weekend? At the same time, I'll remind them that homemade cards are my favourite. I'll tell mister w that I'm

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really happy to go for a walk or whatever the kids choose as long as we do it all together. And, of course, as a final reminder

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on Saturday night, I will proclaim my dislike of breakfast in bed. What are you going to tell your family you'd like this

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weekend? Don't get disappointed. Ask for what you want. Oh, and one last thing. Don't forget to mention what you don't want.

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I, for 1, don't want fizz, gin, or wine. These items do not make me a better mother. Thank you so much for listening in this

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week. PS. I believe in you.