67. Small words, Big impact
Change a word, add a word or emphasise a word - all brilliant tools for seeing or HEARING big differences in our language.
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Hello darling heart and welcome to the drink less live better podcast.
-:This is the podcast that helps you to see that drinking less doesn't need to be stressful, lonely, or boring.
-:I'm your host, Sarah Williamson, and I decided to have a year alcohol free as a little life experiment and haven't looked back. With my experience and
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-:I'm here to tell you that you can relax, connect, and have fun without alcohol in your life.
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-:Today is all about small words and big impact.
-:I love changing words, adding words in, or emphasizing words to be able to see, or more importantly perhaps, hear big differences in my language.
-:This is an example of one of my all time favourite word changes.
-:I'm loving living my sober life, but sometimes I feel like I might be missing out.
-:The question to myself is why does there have to be a but in that sentence?
-:My desire for an amazing sober life doesn't negate my feelings of FOMO from time to time.
-:I'm loving my sober life, and sometimes I get FOMO.
-:This makes room for both emotions, changing from but to and.
-:I can shift my focus from conflict to resolution. No more, what do I do? Poor me. Instead, what's my FOMO driven by?
-:How can I create the fun times I want with the people I really love?
-:One word change change from but to and can make a massive difference.
-:But often closes a dialogue, whereas and allows for a curious question or reconsideration.
-:I know I want to stop drinking, but it's hard, versus, I know I want to stop drinking, and it might be hard.
-:I'd love to go to that event, but I'm anxious, versus, I'd love to go to that event, and I'm anxious.
-:I'd love to ask if I can join them, but I might get rejected, rejected, versus I'd love to ask if I can join them, and I might get rejected.
-:The first part of the sentence represents something I want to do.
-:It's an action in line with my values.
-:The second part of the sentence represents my reasons for not wanting to engage in the action, of course, mostly fear based.
-:I can know something is hard and still want to try it.
-:I can feel anxious and still go ahead and do it. I can get rejected and survive.
-:Being told, no, actually, won't kill me.
-:I'd love to go to that event, and I'm anxious.
-:I'd love to ask if I can join them, and I might get rejected.
-:Both parts of these sentences are true now. They sound okay to me.
-:They acknowledge my fears and help me to move forward. So that's one word change.
-:What about if we add a small word in?
-:My favourite for this is the word yet. It's a growth mindset game changer.
-:I haven't got 6 months of sobriety. Sounds a bit sad.
-:I haven't got 6 months of sobriety yet.
-:Haven't got 6 months of sobriety yet sounds hopeful. The word yet is powerful.
-:It helps us to see learning as a journey, helps us to maintain engagement, and increases our confidence when perhaps we feel out of our depth.
-:Have a look at the work of doctor Carol Dweckx. She is amazing. Her TED Talk is fabulous. The power of yet. For further insights, watch and learn. I just love her.
-:So that's a word added into a sentence. What about emphasizing a word? This is my favourite this week.
-:How often do you tell someone close to you you love them?
-:There's a teenager in the hallway about to leave the house.
-:There's a partner hopping in the car to drive to work.
-:There's a toddler being dropped at nursery. Love you. I say it often.
-:It was always heartfelt, usually well received, and mostly replied to.
-:Love you, went on the end of a phone conversation with a friend.
-:Love you, shouted out of the car window to my mum and dad as I left their house.
-:Love you, to a colleague I adore at the end of a Zoom call.
-:And then one day, I realized a word was missing, a small word, a tiny word, I. I helps us to claim it. I love you. I love you. I love you.
-:I I I I've been taking hold of the power of that tiny tiny word, and I'm using it hard.
-:My family hear a fuller sentence now, one that feels more meaningful and less added on as an afterthought or casually thrown around.
-:And, of course, it's coming back to me me like that too.
-:I encourage you to use I freely this week. I love you. Thank you for listening this week.
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