151. Things you'll never hear me say (part 8) "Just Think Positive"
This is one that really upsets me. Just think positive, positive vibes only and Live, Love, Laugh... can all 'do one' as far as I am concerned. Denying the full range of our emotions isn't helpful or useful to me. I won't ever tell you to keep your chin up or to 'smile, it may never happen!'
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Hello darling heart and welcome to this episode of the Drink Less Live better podcast. This is the podcast that helps you
-:to see that drinking less doesn't need to be stressful, lonely or boring. I'm your host, Sarah Williamson, and I decided to
-:have a year alcohol free as a little life experiment and haven't looked back. I'm a best selling author, expert speaker, corporate
-:workshop facilitator, and life coach. I'm here to support you with your alcohol free or drink less adventures. To keep up
-:to date, be sure to follow me on Instagram at drink less, live better, and head to the website drink less, live better.com,
-:where you will be able to sign up to the 5 day drink less experiment, find blog posts, and you can choose to join the email
-:club where I share resources, wisdom, insights, and glimmers of hope and joy. I hope you enjoy this episode. Let's get straight
-:to it. This episode is a things you will never hear me say episode, and, today, it's think positive. I've got a complicated
-:relationship with thinking positive. One of the things that really upset me last year when I was diagnosed with cancer was
-:somebody telling me I just had to think positively about it. That made me think that they didn't think I ordinarily thought
-:positively about most things which I actually do and that I needed reminding to be positive about something that was really
-:actually quite devastating happening in my life. It wasn't helpful. It wasn't useful to me. Positive thinking might sometimes
-:help you temporarily or it might not. Does thinking positively actually mean that you gaslight yourself, that you pretend
-:that the feelings you are experiencing aren't worthy? Try not to deny yourself the feelings you are having. If things feel
-:rubbish right now, maybe it's because they actually are rubbish right now. People say, come on, chin up, think happy thoughts,
-:positive thoughts only because they have no idea what the heck else to say in the face of adversity, and for this we forgive
-:them. In the face of being told to think positively about my cancer last year, I actually got quite defensive, and I became
-:quite quiet around that person. I recognized that they didn't want to hear or indeed couldn't hear what I had to say on the
-:matter and how I was feeling about the matter, and that gave me a stare on who I could share my honest feelings with and who
-:I couldn't. I give anybody a bit of a wide birth now who is in the positive vibes only mindset. There absolutely has to be
-:room for all of our emotions. We're human. We're supposed to experience the full range. At one end, there's deep depression
-:and sadness and upset and grief and discomfort, and at the other end, there's joy and empowerment and happiness and the acknowledgement
-:of all of the good things that potentially could happen and there's everything in between. Some of us experience from one
-:end to the other end in a matter of minutes and some of us work through a smaller range of emotions over time, all of which
-:is okay. It's just okay. You don't have to think positive in the face of adversity. You don't have to think positive at any
-:time at all. It's okay to experience whatever emotions you are experiencing. Thank you for listening in today. Come back again
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-:And PS, I believe in you.
