131. Which direction?

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Hello darling heart and welcome to the Drink Less Live Better podcast.

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This is the podcast that helps you to see that drinking less doesn't need to be miserable, lonely, or boring.

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I'm your host, Sarah Williamson, and I decided to have a year alcohol free as a little life experiment and haven't looked back.

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With my experience and training, I now help other people with their alcohol free or drink less adventures.

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You can find out more and sign up to my 5 day drink less challenge at drink less live better dot com.

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I'm here to tell you that you can relax, connect, and have fun without alcohol in your life.

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Join me here each week to find out how. Which direction?

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I sometimes talk about coaching being future focused and our desire to get our eyes on the goal or intention in front of us.

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I happen to love and work well towards short and medium term goals.

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I get very discombobulated if somebody asks me where I want to be in 5 or 10 years' time.

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I don't always know where I want to be this weekend.

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I think that is probably born out of my lived experience and knowledge that life can give you unexpected curveballs, which

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very quickly take you away from that which you were expecting.

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In that case, for me, a vision of how my life might be next month is way more helpful than what I might want to do when I retire.

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That's not to say I'm solely a living in the moment kind of girl.

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It's just to say I don't get to set a plan, which means I protect myself a bit if something out of my control hits and hurts. Future focus.

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This week, month, year, I'm all for it.

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My focuses are both professional and personal, serious and fun, growth orientated and light hearted, ambitious and playful. It feels good.

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This direction is all about forward movement, progress and the feelings I want to experience along the way.

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I'm not in the market to make a business I own and operate miserable, repetitive, or unexciting.

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I'm in control of what's next, and I love that fact.

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Building habits that work for me and becoming aware of and accepting what doesn't work really helps me.

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I've had an on off on off relationship with meditation and mindfulness for many years.

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I'm on right now, and it's feeling like an expansive and joyful practice, but I'm careful not to make it heavy or oppressive.

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If I enjoy the amount of time and what I'm doing, that's good enough for me. So that's size forward then. How about you?

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Do you have some short term ambitions in mind? How are you tracking them?

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Have you built in some accountability, either external or internal?

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And how will you know if you are making progress?

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So which other directions do we look? Me? Definitely side roads.

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I'm often lured down a dead end, a cul de sac, a closed road with a danger ahead sign. Think Roadrunner and Wile E.

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Coyote playing out in its truest form.

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Sometimes I've I've been diverted by something or someone, and sometimes I've freely chosen the diversion either as a short

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distraction or as a long term new direction.

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Don't we sometimes end up in unintended, interesting places with just the right people in just the right moment. Beautiful. This is life. Maybe they weren't diversions after all.

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Maybe they were the next right correct turn. And where else then? Which other directions?

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Do things sometimes feel uphill and hard work, or could that same direction be framed as as moving onwards and upwards, or

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how about sliding down freefall out of control versus flowing gently towards the direction of our dreams.

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How you picture it makes all the difference. And finally, what's behind you? Don't look back.

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You're not going that way, some people might say, but don't we have to look back to see how far we've come?

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Some of our learnt lessons are useful to build on for where we're going next.

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Looking back and deciphering past patterns and stories is often useful for propelling us forward, for moving us away from

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what we don't want anymore firmly towards what we are building now and in our glorious futures. I'm Eyes Forward today. How about you?

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Check out the show notes on this or any other episode.

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You'll see the link to a hidden podcast episode to help you with your 5 PM cravings, and you'll be able to read all about my one to one coaching program. Thank you for listening in today.

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Come back again next week, and PS, I believe in

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you.